What is the 95/5 Principle? Well, I made it up. It is something I observe in life. I briefly explained the 95/5 principle in my previous blog post (it is below). As a quick reminder, that is when we make a decision based on how we live in or use that item or space 5% of the time. It is when we choose to do something because it is only inconvenient 5% of the time. Or maybe we buy it because we love it despite the narrowness of the actual use. Let me give you a simple example. How many of you give 2 ft. of pantry space to a turkey roasting pan, and how often do you roast a turkey? That is the 95/5 principle, (I know that is a 99/1 item but I am big picture thinker.).
I saw this in my own life recently. My husband and I have traditionally entertained quite a bit and traveled several times a year. As a result of that, we never had a dog. We like dogs well enough, but I wear black too often to want to frequently play with other’s dogs who can’t look at me without shedding. So, though I manage and enjoy dogs, they were never much part of my life.
As a speaker, I travel a lot, and my husband deals with some pain issues related to his back. Being in pain alone is a challenging combination. So after much consideration, we got a goldendoodle puppy (they don’t shed ?). Now that we have had him for 8 months, we have observed a few things – we travel together less – we expected this, and when it comes to company, I have learned that some people like dogs less than I ever did. I value those people. So taking care of the dog with company requires a bit more work on our side. And a bit of inconvenience and crate time on his part.
I realized that the 95/5 principle was intact here. We got the dog for the 95% of the time it is just the one or two of us at home. And we work through the adaptations we have made for the 5% of the time he is a challenge. Cats are the same. Some people are allergic to them. So we made the decision for the majority of our life even though there is some inconvenience as well. The benefits began to overrule the challenges.
How does this apply to your life? Is it the right decision for the right dreams? Are you putting off a good decision because of a small inconvenience? Are you letting the 5% rule your life? And is that okay with you? Sometimes it will be and sometimes we should reconsider. I wish you peace as you make decisions in your life.
I am a huge fan of morning routines. Whether that is an hour of peaceful reading and journaling or the order of children and family getting ready for their day with meals and a bit of hectic activity. Personally, my morning routine, since my children are grown and I can do what I choose and not be driven by that need, has included journaling about things I am grateful for and what I am perceiving about life that week. And coffee, and a bit of exercise. It was enjoyable.
Then, for various reasons I will discuss at another time, we got a puppy. Who has had a puppy? Like small children, they are demanding and need watching, lest they chew up your shoes or other manageable objects. Even though my husband manages his schedule, he has become a delightful distraction. And my morning routine is out the window. I have to adapt.
They take a walk in the morning, for which I will join them when it is warmer, so I still have some actual quiet time. I need to use it well though, since it is only about 20 – 30 minutes. It has made me appreciate the quiet time I had come to take for granted. I have also found though, that I miss doing my gratefulness exercise. That must have a place in my morning. And exercising my body takes more of a commitment. And I had all that down and was so proud of myself.
This kind of change is happening to us all the time. Kids’ routines change, we add a pet, a parent or older child live with us for a season. Our lives are full of change. I generally like change a lot, but even I have my limits. Recognizing that change is around us and figuring out what the core parts of our routine are is crucial for keeping us sane and peaceful. My very long morning routine has turned into morning kisses and less time alone, but I wouldn’t trade it back for the other. The puppy is the right thing for this time. I am glad to be alert to the parts that I need to pick up. My gratefulness exercise and my body exercise. I will do my gratefulness exercise first thing at “the office” and my body – 2 nights a week to the gym. Put them in my schedule and just go. Spring is coming and I can walk the dog then. For now, it is tradeoffs. I am glad for the freedom to make the choices that require me to adjust.